Do you have a friend who calls herself an introvert, yet she seems comfortable speaking in public, sociable at parties, and generally not super shy and awkward?
She *claims* to be an introvert, but all the evidence is against her. What gives?
Let me help you.
Let’s imagine 2 people driving to an event they are looking forward to and sure to enjoy.
Person 1 — let’s call her Ann — gets into her car, puts on her favorite music, and hits the road. It’s an easy drive: not much traffic, beautiful views. She sings at the top of her lungs with the car set on cruise control, and she never has to stop for gas, restrooms, or a drink.
Person 2– let’s call her Beth — has to travel a different route. There’s heavy traffic and construction, so she turns off the radio to give driving her full concentration. Her car is a stick shift, so she’s constantly shifting up and down, and she couldn’t use cruise control even without the traffic. She also has a small gas tank, so the city driving means she either has to make sure the tank is completely full before she leaves, or she’ll have to make a stop on the way. She doesn’t really mind — she’s excited for the event — but the drive takes a toll nonetheless.
Both Amy and Beth successfully arrive at the same place, and both Amy and Beth enjoy themselves once they are there — they have pretty similar tastes. Amy arrives at her destination nearly on auto pilot. Beth, on the other hand, has to be more intentional to get to the same place, and will probably need a break even from having a good time, to rest up before the next trip.
And there’s your sociable introvert. Just because it doesn’t come totally naturally to us doesn’t mean we can’t do it or we don’t want to. We just have to think about it a little more.
Luckily, we like thinking too.